That way you’ll always look for and find a possibility for growth in anything that happens.9. Just focus on doing what is right and needs to be done to achieve your own end goals. You always tend to overestimate the future loss or reward. This doesn’t mean blow all the money you have on a wild night and deal with the consequences later. People these days are afraid to change jobs, they are not dealing with the fear of trying to snatch a piece of meat from a lion (in that case fear makes sense). Focus on success and what you want to achieve in the long run. Maybe he lives in trailer, maybe he’s drunk off his ass most of the time, if you like him, why not spend some time with him from time to time. Yes, learn to deal with rejection, but there’s no need to convince yourself that there’s something wrong with the person rejecting you. Decide what you need to do, how you are going to do it and do whatever it takes to achieve those goals, including if it means going out of your comfort zone or making short term sacrifices. Have the right hobbies, go to the right places and try to meet women during coffee breaks. Learn how to be enthusiastic about anything and say it in an amusing / fun way.
If your new to this area of self-help it would be a fantastic introduction and will guide you in the areas in what you need to be good at and what areas you will need to do your research in to master these things.
I would recommend getting other products on top of this.
You can hate bureaucracy, but there’s rarely a way around it, unless you live in Russia and you have plenty of cash to bribe people…Then you can nag about corruption in Russia, but again, there won’t be much of a way around it.
No, this is about accepting that you have to learn how to overcome certain obstacles or principles to get where you want to be. It doesn’t empower you, it makes you less constructive and blocks your creativity. Don’t give them gifts and attention that they haven’t earned. Still, you can look like a bum (if you don’t stink) and still seduce a woman.
If you want lasting success with women, you need to build confidence first. Build a Powerful, capable self-image that you love. It is your life and you are responsible for it – so do whatever is right to achieve and live the life that you want to live. I’m not so much of a travel fan, though I ended up travelling quite a bit. No woman is special or has some specific high status. She will be privileged to have you in her life and I can provide more to her than she can ever to me. I’m sorry, but this is just degrading towards women. Don’t let a relationship take over your life or stop you doing things that you want to achieve. Plus, it turns you into something you are not, if you don’t care about chick magazines, then don’t read them.
Not arrogance, which is just an appalling shield very insecure men (or women) throw up. This is largely true, though I assume you are not living in a bubble and that you know your decisions affect others as well and I’m assuming you don’t want to hurt others habitually. I’ve learned more from interacting with people I found fascinating, than by travelling. Teach others every great thing that you learn, immediately. You are never perfect, keep doing things that will have major impact on your overall success – and keep pushing it to a higher level. Stop projecting your strenghts and weaknesses on others. ) Make a list of people you hate and those you admire. If you want to fail with women, then sure idealize her and worship her like some Goddess (women are NOT looking for a man who does that), but to assume that your status is higher? This is your life, no one is going to do stuff for you. I happen to be interested in ‘personality and stuff’ a lot, I’ve had a period that I was somewhat interested in astrology, and I found out that most women have very little real interest in astrology (good for them! Yes, women are more interested in emotions and all sorts of relationships than men typically are.
Toss the insecurity coin away and build genuine confidence. Figure out what’s stopping you and start working on fixing it up. This law sounds like an invitation to beat yourself up. Don’t try to analyze it much or make a genrealization out if it. You have not failed – I am not a failure because something has not worked out. Remember 80/20 principle and focus on things that make the biggest impact on you achieving the goals that you want to achieve. It just taught me I don’t care about most landscapes. As a teacher/therapist I can tell you that explaining something to others is THE way to really store a piece of knowledge or a stroke of insight, much more solidly than if you just read it or hear it. As Bruce Lee is said to have said: ‘Knowing without doing, is not knowing.’ 26. If you lose your emotions on something, that means you have to work on it. Prove to yourself over and over that you can deal with rejection. If you don’t get this reference, start watching the entire series of Friends right now and forget this silly law… Take responsibility for your emotions and don’t let any external factors impact them. If they do something wrong or something you don’t approve, tell them. I so wish the line ‘call girls out if they shit on you’ wouldn’t be in this paragraph. Looking away while talking is a high status symbol. And yes, respect yourself, but the concept ‘high status’ really rubs me the wrong way. Do it the right way, don’t pretend that you are doing it. This one shows a profound lack of insight in human psychology. Don’t talk negatively to yourself, don’t victimize yourself. By the way, I know very few women who read chick magazines and take them seriously… Learn from james bond, nip/tuck, californication and mad men. But yes, flirting is about creating building and releasing tension, and so is humor. ‘Slow sex: the art and craft of the female orgasm’ by Nicole Daedone is supposed to be good. Most women will go into the most unbelievable amount of detail as to what they enjoy in bed if they simply feel that you truly care. Again, don’t feel as though you have to bend over backwards to entertain women. If she clearly doesn’t like that, then stop, and continue the seduction process. Look past the content to see what is really going on. There’s a not so subtle loathing of women lurking underneath these laws, and I don’t like that. Intelligent conversation (engaging her mind therefore) is a huge turn-on. But to run away from her on purpose just so you can leave her wanting more is just silly and fake.
That means that you are ok with who you are and you don’t need to show off, nor do you have to hide or to be very invested in what others think of you or pretend someone your not.4. When I bitch or complain about things, I don’t feel responsible for them – that might be a secondary pay-off for being a wussy. What’s good about it: yes, complaining won’t get you anywhere. If she doesn’t like you, it is her loss – not yours (or she is a lesbian). It’s true you shouldn’t over-analyze rejection or anything you may perceive as rejection, but to walk around thinking that you can provide a lot more to someone than they can to you, is arrogant. Plus there is no failure – it is just a lesson you have learnt in how not to do it. You will see that the lesson you have learnt would be far more valuable than the cost you have paid. Don’t have any distractions – have a tunnel vision on what you want to achieve. find your center, become centered and make yourself the center. Objectify your demons so that you control them instead of them controlling you. Don’t worry about them and learn to conciously make sure that they never control you. Make yourself a priority in your life and do what is right for yourself and achieving the goals that you want to achieve. You can give more, if you take care of yourself first. Surround yourself with success models and eliminate failure models from your life and mind. If others freak out, you instead have to become calmer and a cold-calculating machine. No, you don’t need to become a psychopath, or a cyborg or a robot. Remember if a girl doesn’t want you, it is her loss and not yourself. Hey, there are 77 of them, we can’t expect every single one to be a life-changing gem. If you’re truly hurting don’t try to just put a happy face on it. Often what we hate in others is something we are guilty of as well. If you find you dislike someone this can teach you a lot about yourself. Eliminate all negative/distructive habits and start adapting positive/constructive habits in your life. Just take a break, think logically and do what is right. The way you talk to yourself influences who you become. Find people with high potential and then help them achieve the best they can. You could get a very wrong idea by reading magazines like that and take them at face value. Don’t be arrogant but rather a douchebag who is a lot of fun. You could say something like: if that’s making you uncomfortable I’ll look somewhere else (look into her eyes of course). If she does something that you don’t like or approve of, bust her balls. Never let a woman walk over you, just because you are attracted to her. Woman will be expecting you to fit a next appointment.
David Deangelo is a somewhat forgotten pick up artist nowadays, I have the impression, but one thing that definitely made a lasting impression on me, was his list with 77 laws of success with Women and Dating. You may hate the fact that certain eating habits make you fat, but if you want to be thin, you’ll have to go through the trouble to adopt a healthy diet, and so on and so on. And challenge her to be better, and expect the same in return. Women never take things at face value and use chick logic to figure things out.
I haven’t read the list in years, and since I’m looking for a better set of rules to live my life, I thought I should examine them again. Does anyone even use the term ‘pick up artist’ anymore? It’s good that this is number one on the list, because it’s vital. Just pay attention to small details and let them be impressed with it.