Note to readers: This weblog entry on official advice to women not to marry Muslim men has, to my surprise and delight, become the springboard for an intense, heated, and personal dialogue between non-Muslim women romantically involved with Muslim men.
Judging by a number of testimonies, the site has proved valuable to many women benefiting from advice and the sharing of information; for a couple of examples see the postings by Sally, Nourshehane, Jeweler46, and Cindy (starting here, continuing here, and ending here).
If she rejects you don’t make it so obvious by hanging your head down and looking all blue. When that happens, don’t be surprised if five women in a row all reject you. The key here is to avoid looking desperate, because your mind will literally be so focused on getting that number.
Cut the high-fives and nonsense out with your friends. By not showing how you feel inside, you’ll appear in control and collected. Understand that rejection is simply a made-up emotion, in reality is doesn’t even exist. What I mean by that is don’t approach with only the task of getting her phone number.
You’ll forget too much and miss every single opportunity succumbing to constant fear. Don’t shuffle around like you’re walking on eggshells. Make it a habit to approach women quickly without pacing back and forth about it. When you have something important to say, call her. The key here is make it known that she is an important part of your life.
Advice about dating women
Make her believe that you are someone she must spend time getting to know. Create an amazing lifestyle if you want to attract amazing women. Women tend to naturally gravitate towards two things: Popularity and positively. There is the universal recollection of approaching Riyadh and witnessing the donning of the black abayas and face veils by the fashionably dressed Saudi women.For many women, the Saudi airport is the first time they see their husband in Arab dress (i.e., the thobe and ghutra).Others have found solace in kindred spirits (see the posting of Becs).Still others have drawn conclusions from their own experience and offered these for general use (see the posting of Standfree).For those American women reluctant to wear an abaya (the all-encompassing black cloak) and for those Saudi husbands who did not make an issue of the abaya prior to arriving, the intense public scrutiny that starts at the airport—given to a western woman who is accompanying a Saudi male—is usually the catalyst for the eventual covering up.Since the overwhelming majority of American citizen wives never travel to the Kingdom prior to their marriage, they are abruptly catapulted into Saudi society. In other words, learn how to genuinely enjoy every day of life and every single moment. Create an emotional response, so they are compelled to write you back. Don’t be a sleazy salesperson and sell them false dreams, you’ll eventually have to live up to them. Use the power of voice tone and eye contact to charm her.