She went on to earn a Master's degree from Sarah Lawrence College.Their comfort eating and drinking is often a symptom of their unhappiness – but a fear of being alone stops them from tackling the real problem. My children are becoming more independent and this is my golden time. I don’t have to go to boring business dinners as a plus-one, or schlep up the motorway to visit someone else’s parents.Many fiftysomething women’s desire for a different kind of life is also hindered by the need to look after ageing parents and/or demanding children. I don’t have to cook “his” dinner or do “his” washing. I can go on holiday when and where I want, I can eat the food I fancy and spend my money exactly as I please.I now shudder when I hear a woman say, “I’ll have to ask my husband.” I finally understand my Great Aunt Florence, who never married and lived alone in a cottage by the sea, happily collecting cat ornaments.Her life was completely uncompromised and I can entirely relate to her contentment. As a nutritionist and hypnotherapist, I see many fiftysomething women.Of course, having three children, aged nine, 13 and 16, does clip my wings a bit.And indeed, concern for them is another important factor in why I am not flinging myself at the first available man.At 51 years old and single, I am now part of a growing group surfing a zeitgeistian wave of 50-plus freedom.And, in my experience, this is the best age yet for flying solo.So, the question I asked myself before going ahead was not “do I fancy him?”, but “do I fancy spending the next decade counting out his blood pressure tablets in the morning?