“A lot of these women literally were like, ‘I need a tutorial.If your car wasn’t running well, you’d go to a mechanic.But if you are having trouble dating or in relationships, many men just get mad women.I need a class,’” Nobile recalls, referring to the new apps and changing expectations about sex and relationships that need navigating.“We talked to one mom who said, ‘We had a book club and we tossed the books out and talked about how the heck we’re supposed to get back into dating now and how to support each other.’” There’s no one-size-fits-all advice when it comes to mid-life dating, but Nobile and Ashworth have dedicated a whole chapter of their book to the topic of relationships (“Is This Really the Only Husband I’m Ever Gonna Have?Because that [second] list is the list you go for.” Only you know what’s best for your children, but Ashworth warns against falling into the pitfalls of guilt and avoidance when it comes to dating as a mom.“Women feel like, ‘I want to put all my time into my kids,’ and they don’t give themselves permission to be happy and permission to be in a relationship—to the detriment of their children,” says Ashworth.Men in sleeveless shirts and motorcycles are dressing to impress other men, not women. Make your voice a little deeper if you can and speak from the diaphragm. What I learned is I had to accept responsibility for my part in relationships and improve my dating skills. Take care of your body and style, but work on your personality more. When you work on these skills, you will have a greater love for life and a better life in general.Studies have shown that women like when men are not looking straight at the camera but a little in the distance. The biggest mistake is you think men and women think and act the same way. If you want to be rich and you never work hard, learn about what makes people rich and how to improve your work ethic, you probably won’t be rich and you don’t deserve to be rich. To listen to the interview and hear more great dating advice for men and women over 40, click here.They have partnered with matchmakers and dating coaches in Columbus, Ohio, helping men (and women) become more confident and attractive through consulting, public speaking, and classes.It was a pleasure to speak with David Bennet on Last First Date Radio and listen to his dating advice for men over 40.