Everyone loves dumping on relationships that are perceived as having illegitimate beginnings.
It usually boils down to Steve pointing out their bad habits and giving them a lecture on what guys like. That goes for everyone as well, regardless of gender.
Because Steve Harvey is the ultimate source for the opinions of all men, apparently. Are you really going to rule someone out as a partner or say they don’t deserve a partner because they don’t form to asinine gender expectations?
Dating is something a lot of people want to do, but it’s also something that nobody seems to know how to go about doing.
Human emotions can be fickle, and motivations can be unclear.
Many women like “strong” men, which also ties into being authoritative and taking charge.
The attitude that real men call the shots is best exemplified by celebrity matchmaker Patti Stanger, who runs her entire business based on a strictly gendered dating process.
Men have to plan the dates, men have to initiate kissing, men have to be the ones in charge of courtship, and so on.
Conversely, women she deems too aggressive are stereotyped as masculine and assigned tasks to “soften their energy.” While such militant ideology might seem extreme, it’s reflective of preconceived notions we have about how relationships can form.
By “showing your flaws” prematurely, you’ll break the facade of perfection you have to maintain in order to reel him in.
Women are paradoxically shamed for being inauthentic and shamed for wanting to be authentic. If he rejects you, he wasn’t good boyfriend material anyway.