Of the hundreds of grown men I know, why are so few of them actually grown up?Was I doomed to a life of bottle service and boyfriends half my age because I couldn’t settle down and start a family at an appropriate time?Of all the scary turns my life could take, ending up as one of the middle aged party men cruising the night clubs for a one night stand that concluded with me having breakfast alone and hung-over the next morning, was by far one of the worst.
Short men are screwed when it comes to dating, right?
After all: most things in your dating life can be worked on and improved upon, but the cold hard truth is that some aspects are set in stone. and there are few other aspects that cause men as much dating agita as being short.
As a young gay man whom does not have a single parental figure to aspire to be, I only have the wisdom of the adults around me to sway my decisions.
Why are there so few gay men in my life that look at the next generation as someone to mentor and coach rather than a new addition to their dating pool? The abundance of thirty and forty something’s that attend nightclubs persistently and dress like they are going to a college frat party is astounding.
If you’re not 6 feet tall or taller, then you may as well just resign yourself to a sexless life of Napoleon jokes.
Of course, short is relative; what we consider “average” height varies depending on geographic locale and someone who’s 5’6″ would consider someone who’s 5’9″ (the average for American men) to be lucky.Since the beginning of my social existence a large portion of my friends had been older than myself.I had always just assumed that I was mature for my age when in actuality I think most of the gay men I associated with had never mentally passed the age of 25.But my height has only been as much of a problem as I’d let it be.Over the years, I’ve dated and slept with women of all heights, ranging from 5’1″ to six-foot tall amazons.I think it is time to fight off this trend of a permanent youth.We all need to realize how to act our age and how to play our part in our community.It is time to be a role model for the next group of young men.It is time to tell Peter Pan that you want to go home and as much as it may not be the funniest thing to do, it is time to grow up.Is it because so many gay men were robbed of a gay adolescence that they seem to never leave it once they are able to experience the youth they missed out on?The sad, thirsty man haunting the shadows of 18 and up clubs is slowly killing our culture.