Steinberg says this might mean: getting online or taking online dating more seriously ( read those profiles!Here's how to take stock of your goals, make some strategic changes and get long-term satisfaction out of love and life.In your 20s, you were probably dreaming up what would be the pinnacle of your career life, because, why not?Maybe you'll take a slightly lesser position to be closer to family, or scale back on those 60-hour workweeks to devote more time to your relationship life."Carpenter says pick one or two categories or goals that you really want to devote yourself to, and put the majority of the emphasis there.Hold on to your phones or computer mouses because you're about to get a little tough love.You could even have some sort of "list" for what you want in a guy.But after a decade of missed connections or random encounters, it might be time to get real."If a woman is interested in marriage and biological babies, it's time to really take the reins of your love life," says Boston-based dating coach Neely Steinberg, author of Skin in the Game.Sure, you could theoretically meet your future life partner anywhere.But you've probably been there and done that with the bar and going-out scene, and might not have many opportunities in your current job—where you spend the majority of your waking hours."Doing so will help you create what you want to create in your life—instead of just passively waiting for him to find you."You've probably met your fair share of men who would qualify for your own personal What Was I Thinking? Maybe you took a risk on that guy with the emotional issues, or that supposedly-reformed player with a laundry list of ex-flames.Don't beat yourself over those mistakes, says Steinberg.