This boils down to an innate body language signal; facing towards one another signifies competition, facing the same way as each other signifies you are both on the same team.
This is the logical flaw that keeps so many of us from opening up new relationships.
Envisage this scenario: Joe spots Jane nearby on the beach, sitting and applying some sunblock, and a brilliant plan crosses his mind.
Take all the fun you’ve had here, and put it in this. Learn to steer the conversation to happy emotions – and the situations to exciting spots (hint: fear and heat both feel similar to passion and sex, physiologically) – and you can stimulate powerful productive connections between good feelings and yourself.
(Pick anything, absolutely anything small and portable will do. Now, getting this right takes a bit of practice – it’s easy to sound like some new age freak here, and you just might a couple of times.