That’s why even occasionally replying makes them persist.
That’s why even occasionally replying makes them persist.You’re teaching them that no doesn’t mean no, it means try harder.
You justify breaking no contact because you aren’t giving in, you’re telling him to stop. So they make a mental note that feeding you a dose of guilt got the job done, so they throw in some more. You’re flirting with other women, you ignore me and treat me like shit.
You’re never there for me when I need you and I always feel like I’m being used.
You’ve broken up with your Narcissist, you’ve gone no contact and you’ve done your very best to put your focus back on you.
But much to your chagrin, your Narcissist is pulling out all the stops, throwing everything at you to try and illicit some type of response.
Unwittingly, throughout your relationship, either through sharing, or information gathering, you have given your narcissist all kinds of clues about your emotional triggers, what your greatest fears are and your most painful hurts. They’ve been doing reconnaissance since the day you met.
You may have thought you were getting to know each other through the exchange of information, but really what was going on was that your narcissist was engaging in something much more sinister.
When a Narcissist is pursuing you like this, do not misinterpret this as flattery, or an indication of the depth of their emotions for you.
What it really is, is an attempt to control you and a complete disregard for your wishes and your boundaries.
Now it’s just a matter of planting enough doubt and confusion into your mind about his behavior and then twisting it to somehow make it all your fault, so that you start to doubt your decision and what actually happened. Do you expect me to turn my back on a friend when they need my help?
I’ve been really busy lately and going through some stuff. If nostalgia doesn’t work, they’ll try guilt, if guilt doesn’t work they’ll try pity, if pity doesn’t work they’ll try jealousy…and on and on it goes until they find some hook that gets your attention.